3 under 3, what was I thinking.

3 under 3, yes I planned it that way and yes I myself am thinking women are you crazy. There are reasons I decided to have my kids all close in age. Now ill be completely honest, I was good with 2 but my husband and I always talked about 3 and he insisted he still wanted 3 so here we are.

Why to consider your husband

Why to consider your husband’s wants and needs. To be honest this is a marriage and for me this was a choice I really had to think about and I really took into consider what would happen 5 years from now and how this could affect how my husband felt in the future. I considered resentment, desire for more later, why did he really want three and could he even handle it or could I even handle it. In our marriage we are a team and he tries and does his best with everything around the house from dishes, dinner, laundry, cleaning and watching over our kids. Its just tuff and everyday seems like were just trying to survive, so I know having 3 would only make it worse

The thought of 3 kids is a little stressful

The thought of 3 kids is a little stressful, I had to prep my mind for it, and being ok with wanting a 3rd, technically a 4th for me. But the only thing really stopping me was myself. I understood how much work it would be and how much work it would be for me. Yes my husband helps which is nice but we know we as ladies do more than a man whether they like to believe it or not. From making sure the girls have clothes and it’s all organized for the future use of the next kid, to cleaning the walls, toilets, bed sheets, and shower. Making sure we have all supplies and the full grocery list. We just are super human when it come to raising a family its just crazy. It gets a little more crazy when you have to go to work and have even more less days off and time to get shit done.

Money

You also have to take into consideration of money. I like to say my husband and I make decent money but with living in the Bay Area and the cost of living oh man, it’s ruff and very tight. I am a person who loves to travel and enjoys going out to eat but with 2 kids it’s not as enjoyable and I know with 3 it seems impossible but I guess will find out. I find or think I probably won’t leave the house very much till they are all over 3…maybe 5 lol. Long walks to the park or just going to any park will be the to do list everyday. We started the whole credit card points a few years ago and we are saving those up to hopefully trips can happen, we look for deals such as gift card for travel. I am also learning to shop minimally and only buy what im going to cook or what I know my family will eat. This is difficult because mysids are picky but we work it out.

3 kids

I am sure that many couples have 3 kids. Many of them to decide to have them all close in age and hey maybe its a cake walk for them, but for me, I am terrified to be completely honest. I am super worried for the unknown and what our lives will really be until at least the age of 5. I like kids…kinda love but having kids is a lot of work. Since I work full time, have a house and kids already life just seems to have lost it self. I look forward to the last baby and I am praying for happy and healthy but I am worried and I pray to god, to just help me and guide me each and every day.